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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %FEAR TRUTH DESIRE DECEPTION SELF OTHER UNDERSTAND 911214 When we fear the truth, we desire to be deceived. We are motivated to accept deceptive behavior, because we fear the truth. Others encourage us to deceive them, when they fear the truth about themselves and about us. Others motivate us to lead deceptive lives, because they do not know how to live gracefully with the truth about themselves and about us. We cannot truthfully live with each other unless we understand and deal with the ways in which we motivate ourselves and each other to want, desire, and work for appearances which are not open and honest. It is dangerous to take for granted that we want to know the truth, that we want to avoid deception. We need to recognize how often we want deception, so as to avoid the truths which we do not know how to deal with. We need to learn how to gracefully deal with the truths about ourselves and about others, truths which we have often found to be embarrassing. Only when we can so cope can we hope to be free to know those truths which embarrass us now. The way to the truth will involve coming to understand our motives when we seek and encourage comforting deceptions; and so learn to deal openly and honestly with the tragic consequences of our comforting deceptions. If we do not want to know the truth about our tendency to avoid the truth, what hope can there be for wise decisions and actions? Our patterns of avoiding embarrassing truths are communal systemic patterns, as well as isolated individualistic patterns. The ways in which we avoid dealing with embarrassing truths are cooperative ways, as often as they are individualistic. To transcend cooperative deceptions will require cooperative transcendence of our collusive games of mutual self deception. We must agree together, at the same time, to cooperate in confronting our collusions. Agreeing together at the same time is more difficult than concluding individually at different times that it would be wise to cope honestly with patterns of self deception. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================