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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %MANIPULATIVE TECHNICAL SEX LOVE SALVATION ACHIEVE 910914 We need to recognize and admit that the salvation, redemption and love we miss, lack, yearn for and seek---cannot be achieved through the use of manipulative techniques, rituals, formulas and/or systematic procedures. This is true whether the focus of our efforts are psychological, physical, sexual, financial, possessive, spiritual, religious, scholarly, moralistic, legalistic, ethical or other. Salvation is not achieved. Salvation is a gift offered freely and received freely. Manipulations, techniques, rituals, formulas and systematic procedures are not central in giving, accepting or in receiving salvation. The key to giving or receiving salvation is not found in any isolated aspect of life. People who receive salvation do so honestly, humbly and without concern for control of the process. They do not regard salvation as a contractual business transaction in which there should be a fair exchange of value and/or guarantees of fulfillment of some contractual terms. Salvation is received in the eternal now; not in the darkness cast by the painful past which cannot be changed, or in fear of the unknown future which is beyond control. When we accept salvation we are released from the prisons of our regret, shame, guilt, fear and anxiety. We become free of our collusive games of self deception, addictions and codependencies---and free to be true to ourselves and to each other. We discover what true love is, and that what we thought was love was not true. Salvation may come to us through our relationships with other persons; but other persons cannot guarantee our salvation, nor block our salvation. They cannot sell us salvation for a price, nor keep it from us until we pay a price. It is easier to believe that others cannot deprive us of salvation and cannot sell us salvation; than it is to believe that an other person cannot assure us salvation through love and sexual intimacy. Thus we often seek to achieve salvation through the love and/or sexual intimacies of another person; or perhaps we seek to assure another person salvation through our love and/or our sexual intimacies. Yet we cannot thus achieve or assure salvation. Other people cannot control our salvation; nor can we control their salvation. Salvation is a mystery which is beyond our control, but no beyond our sharing in intimate reflexive relationships. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================