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This is http://www.essayz.com/a9010092.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %SHOULD CONTROL PUNISH REWARD CONFORM REBEL LOVE 901009 When the word "should" is used in the discussion of people's behavior, beware. Somebody is likely to believe that knowledge of what one person should do, is knowledge which points to what another person should make sure gets done by the person who should do it. The word "should" leads people with addictive personalities to volunteer for control duty. Addictive people believe that they should be in control of what other people should do, and should not do, and they volunteer for authoritative service in the name of propriety and conformity. Addicts and their supportive codependents volunteer to serve each other in making sure that they do what they should do, and do not do what they should not do. They are often confused about who should do (and who should not do) what, but they are clear in their own mind that they should be in control of what others should do (and should not do), and how others should be controlled, so that they do what they should do, and do not do what they should not. In this process honesty is not highly valued, and so honesty is sacrificed. While trying to be in control of what others should do/not-do, and do/not-do, most codependents do not keep clearly in mind what their own real needs are; i.e., how to maintain their own personal and communal integrity. They are working so hard to take care of others and what others should/not be doing; that they have no time, energy, interest, or resources to take good and healthful care of themselves. Codependents love neither others nor themselves, because they do not take good care of themselves. They think that they are taking good care of others; but they cannot know that, for they do not take good enough care of themselves to avoid confusion, and they have no sound and or honest personal basis for comparison. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================