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This is http://www.essayz.com/a8809281.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %PATERNALISTIC RESPONSIBILITY LIMITS ADDICTION 880928 It is not wise for one person to take on the responsibility for always protecting another person from the consequences of the other person's decisions and actions. Taking on such a responsibility leads to the development of addictive and codependent relationships. It is not wise for one person to take on the responsibility for manipulating the consequences of another person's decisions and actions so as to control the other person's behavior. Taking on such a responsibility leads to the development of addictive and codependent relationships. The situation is not improved by the role of the paternalistic person being replaced by a paternalistic group, institution, organization, club, family, church etc. For healthy personal relationships to exist it is essential for participants to bear in large measure the consequences of their own decisions and actions without others manipulating the nature of those consequences. In practice it is not always simple to maintain the clean distinction between natural consequences and contrived consequences. The distinction can be best maintained if there is always clarity as to how much sacrifice is being made (and by whom) for the destructive consequences of the decisions and actions of specific people. If the people who are making the decisions and engaging in destructive actions are not bearing a significant share of the destructive consequences, they will not be likely to learn from their mistakes; and may learn to continue the misguided pattern of making decisions, and acting upon them. People who persistently are willing to bear the costs of other people's misguided decisions and actions are in practice torturing themselves. They are not helping the people whom they claim to be helping. They are using their addicts as victims of their codependent patterns of masochistic service. Such patterns of caring are manipulative and coercive, and receive in return not gratitude, but manipulative and coercive reactions which take advantage of the misguided selfish generosity of the "helper". Each participant attempts to control the other participants in tragic efforts to improve their own self esteem through manipulative achievements. They are dishonest. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================